I’m never wrong

 
     
 

שמות פרק יא

ד) ויאמר משה כה אמר ידוד כחצת הלילה אני יוצא בתוך מצרים:

רש"י על שמות פרק יא פסוק ד

ור"ד כמו כבחצות הלילה ואמרו שאמר משה כחצות דמשמע סמוך לו או לפניו או לאחריו ולא אמר בחצות שמא יטעו אצטגניני פרעה ויאמרו משה בדאי הוא אבל הקב"ה יודע עתיו ורגעיו אמר בחצות:

Moshe said “at about midnight”, that implies close to, either before or after, however he didn’t say at midnight, lest the astroglgers err and they will say that Moshe is a liar.

 

 
 
 

Moshe changed the wording

After months and months of  HASHEM showing the Mitzrim that He alone controls every aspect of creation, Moshe is instructed to warn Pharaoh that if at this point he doesn’t let the Jewish people go, then exactly at the stroke of midnight,  every first born in Mitzraim will die.

Yet, when Moshe appeared in front of Pharaoh, he changed the message and said, “If Pharaoh doesn’t free the Jews, then approximately at midnight every first born will die”.

Rashi is troubled by why Moshe would change the wording of HASHEM. Rashi answers that Moshe was afraid that if he gave an exact time, the Mitzrim would be watching the clock, they might miscalculate and rather than assuming that they were wrong, they would attribute the error to Moshe, and assume that he was a liar. To remove this potential pitfall, Moshe changed what HASHEM said, and told Pharaoh that around midnight- the first born will begin dying.    

How did the Mitzrim tell time?

This Rashi seems quite difficult to understand. In our times we have precise instruments to measure time, we have clocks, watches, and chronographs…In the ancient world timepieces were crude. During the day, a sundial might provide some degree of accuracy- give or take a few minutes. But the Maakah of Bechoros was at night. The way the Mitzrim would tell time at night was by gazing at the stars. They would look up at their alignments and approximate the time. How accurate could this possibly be? The telescope had yet to be invented, sophisticated mathematics was yet to be discovered. So what right would they have to assume that they were right and Moshe was wrong?

Ten months of being proven right

What makes this even more difficult to understand is that for close to a year, Moshe and Aaron would miraculously appear in Pharaoh’s palace and foretell what would happen if Pharaoh didn’t allow the Jews out of Mitzraim. Time after time, exactly as Moshe predicted, the events would occur. In the precise manner, in the specific time, and with startling exactness—what Moshe said would happened- did happen. So why would the Mitzrim assume that they were correct and Moshe was lying? Isn’t it much more likely that they were the ones who made the error?

I am never wrong

The answer to this question seems to be based on human nature. We tend to assume that our opinions are correct, regardless of the evidence against us, and irrespective of who we might be arguing with. While we may not have given much thought to how we arrived at our concepts, once something becomes accepted as our opinion, it becomes very difficult to change

We are heedless in the forming of our opinions

Moshe was afraid the Mitzrim would calculate the time, and despite their accuracy being quite questionable, they would jump to the conclusion that Moshe was wrong – in fact he was a liar – that he fabricated the entire situation. To prevent this, Moshe said “around Midnight”.

The implications of this concept are far reaching, when we take it to its logical conclusion. Let’s assume for a minute that Moshe hadn’t changed the expression, and said that exactly at midnight HASHEM will kill the first born. Moshe was afraid that when the Maakh began the following would happen: the Mitzrim would calculate the time, and they might conclude that at exactly 11:45 PM the Makah began.  What does that prove? It proves that Moshe was off by a few minutes- therefore what? Everything else he has said till now has been true. But even more, the reality is that every first born has now miraculously died, exactly as he said they would. So what possible conclusion could the Mitzrim have reached that it was worth Moshe changing the expression that HASHEM said to him.

 

Here again we see another human tendency, Moshe was afraid that he be defrocked- discredited, once caught in one lie, the assumption would be nothing he said would have any credibleness-despite it being proven true time after time. Rather than carefully go back and see that the basis of their opinion was highly speculative, they would assume Moshe was wrong, and they would then create an entire philosophy – despite the overwhelming evidence against it.

 

This concept has great relevance to us both on the receiving as well as on the giving end. To be effective, truthful people we must recognize our tendency to be biased. When we find ourselves in a disagreement with others, it is difficult to hear another person’s position, regardless of the logic or evidence in their favor. Whether in regards to politics, sports, the economy or what color tie best matches this suit, we tend to be heedless in the formation of our opinions, yet when challenged we become  locked in, almost incapable of hearing the other perspective.

“A man convinced against his will, is of the same opinion still”

And, this idea has great impact on the other side of the coin, when it is our goal to convince others. Whether a co worker we wish to influence in issues of religion, or a child in regards to acting responsibly, the more clearly we understand human nature the more effective we can be.

The operating principle is arguing will beget the exact opposite reaction that I am seeking -- The more directly I confront a belief that you hold – the more you will resist giving it up.

 

The reason for this is, that when I directly challenge something that you think to be true- it is no longer the belief that is under assault – it is you. It is as if I am ripping out a bastion that supports you- and, your instinct for self preservation will come to your defense. At this point that very idea that you may not have fully believed up till now becomes rooted and grounded in your very being, and you become almost incapable of giving it up. Doing so, would be admitting defeat, something we find so distasteful.

 

The only method to effectively influence others is to recognize the inner makeup of the human, and then gingerly bring people around to the correct understanding, allowing their sense of self to remain untouched.

 

 For more on this topic please listen to Shmuz #136 – I’m Never Wrong                                         

 

 

 

 

 
                                        
     
     
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
   
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