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#11 Kibud Av of Eisav – Appreciating Parents
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Of course we appreciate our parents. Of course we respect them. Isn’t that only natural? Doesn’t everyone? And yet we don’t. We live in a society that doesn’t seem to know the meaning of the word respect. There is no respect for authority, no respect for institutions, no respect for elders, and even no respect for ourselves. Unfortunately, we are affected by this, and this lack of respect goes s...
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#30 Anger Management
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We all know that anger is bad and if we have ever gotten into a situation where we lost our temper, we certainly wished that we hadn’t --but what can I do? This is the way I react. He said something, I saw red and exploded. That is just my nature. I didn’t ask to be born this way, and there is nothing that I can do about it. Right?
In this Shmuz we are introduced to the motivation and the ...
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#35 Hashem and Man: Master and Servant (Understanding Humility)
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We know the Torah gave us a specific mitzvah - to work on our character traits, but how do I change my very basic, underlying emotional makeup? Much like as with any character trait, I didn’t wake up in the morning and say, “I just want to be a big, fat, arrogant buffoon”. I didn’t wake up and say, “I would like to consider myself the most important human on the planet – G-d's gift to humanity. Bu...
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#48 Being a Nice Guy
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Most people we meet are “nice guys”. If you were stuck on the road, or if you needed a place to sleep they would be the first to come forward and offer to help. Yet these very same people do things that really aren’t nice-- in fact, sometimes downright cruel. The question is why? Why is it that people who are kind and sweet, do things that are so unquestionably mean?
Oftentimes the answe...
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#89 Malbin Pnei Chavero
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#109 - MACHLOKES! The Damage of Conflict
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The Torah calls us a stiff-necked people. It seems to be part of our very nature; put two Jews together and you get three opinions.
It is easy to see how conflict causes damage. Many of us have felt first hand the powerful downward spiral that spins into action when human beings live in a state of strife.
How it is possible for such an argumentative people to live in harmo...
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#112 - Chesed - The Essense of Judaism
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We know that HASHEM is kinder than the kindest of human beings. HASHEM created this entire world with abundant love, solely to give to man. All the good within creation was specifically designed to give man more enjoyment.
So why don't I see chessed of HASHEM? Why can't I simply open my eyes and be awed by the chessed that HASHEM invested in this world?
In this Shmuz we fo...
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#116 - GROWTH
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Every human needs to grow; it is an inborn trait in the species. Sometimes, that trait manifests itself into real, significant growth, but sometimes, it is channeled into lesser pursuits. A sure sign of this is when someone incessantly chases after something that never satisfies him. The multi-millionaire who constantly seeks more money, the king who goes to war to expand the boundaries of his alr...
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#120 - Thrift
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Never before in the history of mankind has so much been available to so many. Even in recent times, the earning power and discretionary income of the average US citizen has increased dramatically. The typical American worker today earns far more than he did back in the 1950's. Yet the rate of savings has decreased fourfold since that time. Even more troubling, consumer debt has increased exponenti...
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#121 - EMES The Whole Truth
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Politicians lie, lawyers lie, salesmen lie -- but we are honest, moral people and we don't lie... Unfortunately, the reality is that the world we live in affects us, and lies - sometimes little ones, sometimes bigger ones, tend to seep into and become part of our lives.
Reb Yisroel Salanter defines lying as "Saying words with our mouth that our heart knows aren't true". Using this as our...
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#127 - Breaking The Forces Of Habits
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We are creatures of habit. We act by habit, we react by habit and, to a large extent, we even think by habit. In truth, it has to be that way. If we didn't act based on previously established patterns of behavior, life would be unmanageable. If we had to think through each and every action, even simple things like turning a corner, our minds couldn’t focus on anything beyond navigating the basics ...
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#128 - Kiruv: The Message & The Medium
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In 1996, sociologists Gordon and Horowitz published a study entitled, “Will Your Grandchildren Be Jewish?” Their conclusion: based on the general Jewish population’s ever-decreasing birth rates and skyrocketing intermarriage rates, the odds that any Jews will remain at the end of the 21st century are slim to none.
However, one category of their study stood out in stark relief -- the Or...
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#153 - Marriage: A Work in Progress
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Each one of us stands under the chuppah starry-eyed, knowing full well that we have found eternal love and bliss.
Yet, something happens between that moment and real life. The reality is that getting married is easy, but staying married isn't.
This Shmuz is Part I of a Marriage series that deals with the essential of creating long lasting Shalom Bayis. ...
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#154 - Marriage: A Work in Progress PART II
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Each one of us stands under the chuppah starry-eyed, knowing full well that we have found eternal love and bliss.
Yet, something happens between that moment and real life. The reality is that getting married is easy, but staying married isn't.
This Shmuz is Part II of a Marriage series that deals with the essential of creating long lasting Shalom Bayis. ...
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